6 Common Reasons Why Women Stay In a Job They Don’t Like

I don't like my job

I don’t like my job

Lots of statistics show results of work satisfaction surveys. Their findings are quite consistent and alarming. The overall message is that most of people don’t exactly love their jobs. Most people are somewhat satisfied. Well, to be somewhat satisfied is not good enough for me. Is it for you?

I believe that you want to be happy with what you do. ‘Do what you love and love what you do’ is the life motto I totally agree with and I wish every woman to live by it.

And yet, a lot of women stay at work that they don’t really love. Why? What are the most common reasons women stay in jobs they don’t like?

The one and only reason is in fact fear. But fear has different ways to show up in our lives. Fear is quite clever and is able to put on different masques. Let’s have a look at the most common ‘dressed up’ fears.

At least I have a job

It’s good to be safe. And yet when feeling safe stops you from being happy and living your best, it’s in fact limitation. It’s a fear of taking a risk. Yes, the need to feel safe is quite common for women and it seems to be the major reason women don’t want to change their job even if it doesn’t make them happy anymore.

It’s not that bad

is another reason for not looking for something that really suits you and makes you happy. Compromising the sense of fulfilment and career happiness in this way is quite common for many women. What is in the core of this reason though is not feeling worthy. Not feeling worthy for having what you really want. And that is just another type of fear.

I have no other choice anyway

is another limiting belief. It’s often based on other people’s expectations projected on you. It’s other people’s fear that women so often accept as theirs and as a result chose to cope, fit in, be nice and forget their own dreams and ambitions. And yet, you always have a choice.

That’s what I do all my life, I don’t know anything else 

is in fact a fear of change. Yes, sure, if you have been in your profession for something like 20 years, you know it really well. But there is always time to learn something new. There has never been so much of free information that anyone can use to learn and grow.

I am too old to find a job I want.

At what age does this fear kick in? There are so many women who changed their careers totally at their midlife. There are so many examples of women who created their second or third career after being 40 to live their career lives fully and passionately. And still, being too old seems to be common reason to excuse self from being happy.

There is one basic fear that is behind all of the above.

Fear of not being enough.

Do you know this one? Are you familiar with it? What is your version of not being good enough belief? Yes, this fear is really tricky! Let’s face it! At some stage and to some extend every woman knows this fear.

All these fear based reasons for not stepping into your full potential and creating career you desire have something in common. Even though they sound real, they are not. They are just limiting beliefs. You make your choice if any limiting belief becomes a reality for you. It’s normal to feel fear. It’s good to be aware of it, to acknowledge it for what it is. What happens next makes a difference. The decision to act regardless of the fear makes the difference. You are free to make your choice. Always.

Karolina Maya

 

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When a Woman Turns 40 And Why It’s The Best Time For Career Changes

40s -the best time for career changes

Being in 40s -the best time for career changes

When a woman turns 40 something happens. For most of us it means stepping into a time of change. And as every change, it may represent a challenge as well as an opportunity. I see this time in women’s life as the best to make career changes and step into the full feminine potential without any compromise. And here are my top 5 reasons why:

 

 You know who you are

When you are 40+ it means you lived long enough to get to know yourself. Even if you think you still don’t know who you are, you have enough of evidence and insights. All you need to do is to sit down, take your time and have a look at your life.  You will realize who you really are quite quickly. You don’t need anymore anyone else to tell you what you are good at and what your weaknesses are. You already know what your point of power is. You know your greatness and you learned how to to deal with areas where you need some support.

 You know what you want

Life has already given you a lot of experience. There were times, situations, places and activities that made you feel happy, alive, fulfilled and excited. You met people that you loved. And of course you already know what you don’t want in your life anymore. I am sure you learned from what made you feel hopeless, not worthy, sad or angry. So you know what you want as well as what you don’t want.

You have gained your life wisdom 

You already have the understanding of life that only comes with experiencing life with all the good as well as bad.  You lived through some pains and losses and you healed the wounds. You lived through joy, wins and miracles. You have forgiven and you were forgiven for some of the mistakes that happened and pain that was caused.  You turned your life experience into your own unique wisdom.

 New meaning of life

You already know that there is some other meaning of life for you. And now when your children are growing up and need your full attention less and less, it’s time to become conscious about it. This time now allows you to gradually change your responsibilities and focus to your new life meaning.  It’s the best time to prepare for your new life chapter. You don’t want to fall into the empty nesters’ syndrome, do you?

 You have a sense of time

You don’t have anymore that feeling that everything is in front of you; so common for youth. It’s not anymore about “One day, when I grow up I will…” You know that now is the most precious time. You know that the present is a gift. You realize that you are in the middle of your life and that makes you real. You don’t have time to fear of what the others say or if you are good enough. You don’t have time for any fear at all. This time you have needs to be used to live fulfilling, joyous, juicy, happy life. And you know the best time to start is now.

Do you agree? Do you see yourself? Cool! You just confirmed you live the best time of your life to create career that you desire.

When a woman turns 40, something special and exciting happens.

Karolina Maya

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What Is Your Definition of Career?

What is Your definition of career

Career and our definition of career have changed significantly during the last 20 years. I want to share my personal observation of the evolution of career meaning, definition and it’s role in our lives. And I will love to know your opinion and your own definition of career.

At the beginning of my own career life, career building was simply understood as climbing a ladder within a corporate world. Building a career meant that he or she wanted to achieve some specific position in a corporate hierarchy. Career was understood as a synonym for a corporate position, management title and related benefits.

This understanding of career was fully linked with having a job, being employed and dependent on corporate cultures, policies and politics.

Then the understanding of career evolved into another path – professional careers. People started to build their careers not only by climbing corporate ladders but also by growing their professional expertise and deepening their knowledge within their profession or industry.  Careers started to be understood as building reputation and respect in a specific area of expertise.

In my point of view this was the first step into bigger flexibility, independence and personal ownership of career planning and creation. It opened the door into building personal careers independently from the corporate world.

Constantly increasing amount of people who are aware of their own choices and active roles in their life designs as well as the crisis of the mainstream ‘safe-job’ system has caused changes in career definitions in recent years.

More and more people are creating careers consciously around their values and passions. Desired life style seems to be the key element in career creation in these days.

Building career has broaden it’s meaning.  People are more aware of their need to live actively their life purposes to feel fulfillment and deep happiness. Make a positive change in the world in some way seems to be a career aspiration of many. And that is what I believe the modern aiming of career is.

Career in my terms means doing what your heart desires, doing it for the highest best of humanity, doing it in the best way possible by utilizing all of your potential, talents and gifts and doing it for the exchange that allows you to express your true self  in all and every areas of your life.

Having a job and building a career were always two different things. Most people still have a job. Some already have a career, and more are ready to start creating careers they desire. And that is a positive motion.

To make the first step in your career creation read and follow the FREE Guide Book ‘The Alchemist Way – Discover Your Life Purpose’. It’s been designed for you so that you can start creating career you desire today.

I will love to hear from you, feel free to share your own experience and opinions here or be a part of our Facebook Career Alchemy for Women Community.

With love and respect,

Karolina Maya

 

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Career Coaching and Alice in Wonderland

Career Coaching and Alice in Wonderland

Career Coaching and Alice in Wonderland

Hi, it’s Karolina Maya here,

What has Alice in Wonderland to do with career coaching?

She came to my mind when I was reading posts on career forums. I have come across posts of people who were calling for help and career advice such as: “I need some advice; I don’t know what to do!” Or: “I need a new career! “

People behind these posts were expressing  dissatisfaction with their current jobs and wanted a change.  Well, I guess, we all know that; job that is not satisfying and feeling an urge to change it. Nothing special, right?

The thing that all these people have in common apart from disliking their jobs was that they had no clue what they wanted instead.

And thats where  Alice in the Wonderland came into my mind.

Alice: “Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?”  

The Cheshire Cat: “That depends a good deal on where you want to get to.”    

Alice: “I don’t much care where.” 

The Cheshire Cat: “Then it doesn’t much matter which way you go.”   

Alice: “…So long as I get somewhere.”  

The Cheshire Cat: “Oh, you’re sure to do that, if only you walk long enough.”            

Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

Do you get it? If you don’t know where to go, how can you know how to get there? Or the other way around; if you don’t mind where to get to, then you will get there regardless which way you go.

I totally understand. I was there myself! It is easy to know, see, feel, what we don’t want especially when we have that. It is easier than to know, see, feel, what we want, especially when we don’t have it yet.

And yet, if you are not happy with what you have or where you are, and feel the urge to leave, you have to know what you want. That is the advice that you need. Ask yourself what do you want first.

See, there is a huge difference between moving away from something you don’t like and moving towards to something you like . It’s better to go for something you want than run away from something you don’t want.

“Begin at the beginning,” the King said                                                                                   Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

So, before any career change, begin at the beginning… “What do you want?”

With love and respect,

Karolina Maya

 

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Do You Live Your Dream Career?

"Moving towards your dream career"

Moving towards your dream career

I have a simple question for you: “Do you live your dream career?”

Do you have a simple answer ‘Yes, of course!’ on your mind immediately when you read the question? Awesome! You are a happy person; living rich and fulfilling career life whatever your dream career is.

Looking around, talking to people, listening to their career stories, I know it’s not that common, living your dream and having a career you desire. Why not? Maybe some of the following ‘Must to Have’ is missing.

 Having a dream

This sounds quite logic, right? How can you live a dream career without having a dream? For me a dream in this regard is linked with a life purpose. It is a vision about making some part of our existence better. Making a positive difference. It is an urge, the first calling that evolves into a question: How can that happen?

 Having a career dream

Your career dream starts to take a form and shape when you ask yourself ‘How can I do that?’ Do you feel the difference? You have already moved from a dream that is out there to a dream that you own.  It’s already you, who is realizing your dream. It’s about believing that: ‘If it is to be, it’s up to me.’

 Having courage

Seeing yourself realizing your dream is just a beginning. A lot of different types of fears and obstacles may kick in even before you even make the very first step towards your dream career. And that’s the moment of a test. Do you have the courage to ‘feel the fear and do it anyway?’ Yes, you have!

 Having support

It’s never good to be alone with your dreams. Of course it is easier if you have the right support around you. People who believe in you and in your dream. People who are there for you when times are tough. You need that supportive environment. If don’t have it, create it. You may even need to make a step out from the environment that you currently have if that is what’s keeping you back.

Having faith

For me this means keeping the dream alive and colorful and bright all the time.  If the dream keeps it’s energy and attraction, the faith will stay as well.  Even at times when you feel down.  You have all what you need to follow your dream and live your dream career; otherwise you would not have that dream at the first place.

So, do you live your dream career? If not, start creating your dream career right now. Are you over 40? Great, the best time to start. Start with a simple question:  “What’s my dream?” And watch what happens.

And share your story.

Karolina Maya, Career Coach & Mentor

 

 

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